relationships
Practice Makes Permanent: Reactive Thinking and the Promise of Rewiring our Brains Through Mindfulness During Divorce!
Divorce Hardwiring Can Be Toxic, And It Can Be Overcome!
Jennifer Kresge, M.A., L.M.F.T. and attorney Nina Meierding put on an excellent institute at the 2010 AFCC convention in Denver last week entitled "How the Brain Reacts to Conflict." I wanted to share of few of their pointers as they relate to the importance of mindfulness, because considering them might be helpful in dialing back reactivity for people in relationship transition.
But first a seeming digression.
HUMILITY, RELATIONSHIP-BUILDING AND CAREER SATISFACTION
Humility is something not ordinarily associated with lawyers, but it should be. The few lawyers who possess true humility – the ones who are the least self-aggrandizing and the most willing to sacrifice their egos to assist others - are the most highly respected, have the largest social networks and have the highest degree of career satisfaction. This fact may seem counter-intuitive. Most lawyers automatically recoil when they hear the word “humility,” because they confuse it with being timid, lacking in self-confidence and allowing oneself to be degraded or stepped on. These lawyers are confusing humility, with something negative. They haven’t discovered that humility is a virtue found in happy people who attract the friendship and loyalty of others and who positively influence the people around them.
The Power of Apology
When we were children, we often heard our parents say something to the effect of “Just tell me the truth and I won’t be angry.” And as parents ourselves, how many times have we said something similar to our own children?