Unless you are extremely lucky or have done a lot of healing, you probably are experiencing them. Examples of these repeating patterns are: continuously finding yourself in relationship with emotionally unavailable partners or in unsatisfactory jobs, and repeatedly being abandoned or laid off.
Exercise: Can you think of any other repeating patterns you have witnessed in people? Do you have (or have you had) any of these patterns?
These patterns could be referred to as “fractal pattern” or “lifetrap”. By understanding how these play out in YOUR life, you can reap the following benefits:
Imagine having to leave your firm due to harassment. Then imagine joining a new firm, a small one owned by a former classmate, only to find out that your new colleagues have all kinds of history with each other, and, oh yeah, your (now married) ex also works there…while you’re still single. This was the […]
Sometimes a situation becomes unbearable and then we change. Sometimes we change before it becomes unbearable (proactive change). Hypothesis: When the changes we are underdoing are so big that they are threatening our identity, the latter almost never happens.
The most powerful change happens when we are forced to our knees.
So what motivates us to change?