D. Patrick Miller
I have been reading like mad, wrestling with emotions and healing from a series of VERY PAINFUL experiences. I have had to work REALLY hard to deal in forgiveness while also dealing in truth. I have read "It's Not Your Fault: How Healing Relationships Change Your Brain & Can Help You Overcome a Painful Past" by Patricia Romano, Ph.d. Mcgraw (May 2004) and "Mommy Dearest" and "Mistakes Were Made..." and "Sway" and now "Spontaneous Evolution"-- and listened to numerous of the calls now abounding on healing. I am a fan of Phil Cousineau and his recent work "Beyond Forgiveness http://www.facebook.com/index.php?lh=df116eaa280320d8d9759370bb65af49!/BeyondForgiveness
I love D. Patrick Miler's "Little Book of Forgiveness."
BUT--I am confused because I am angry at some folks I love and/or have forgiven. I uncover more hurt... and the battle between anger and forgiveness begins anew.
It's a major conundrum!
Although Aron says divorce is sometimes a "joy" that is not quite true--that is only temporary. What she fails to note is that even conflict is a form of intimacy-- and one that many of us have FAR more of then we do the nice kind we all LOVE to read about. In "Ethical Persuasion" Tom Rusk M.D. and D. Patrick Miller point out that most have us (humans not HSPs) have never been properly loved and we really can't bear it for long... I HIGHLY recommend that book to ALL.